In this PN TV episode we explore a few of my favorite Big Ideas from Byron Katie's brilliant book, "Loving What Is." Hope you enjoy! 
NOTE: Most of the discussion for this episode is going on over here as part of the 50 Day Challenge!
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Good note - makes sense. Although when you are in a long term relationship leaving isn't always so easy, even if that is the only way to "clean the lense."
It took me 15 years to see that unless I left, things would never change, but I had to try everything else first to know for sure.
It would be nice if more people could figure the "lense" idea out - a lot of battles would stop!! And, a lot more would never start.
Thanks for taking the time to enlighten us and have a fabulous day.
Dear Marilyn,
Brian's sharing enlightened me, and so did your comments.
I like you said, 'It would be nice if more people could figure the "lens" idea out - a lot of battles would stop! And, a lot more would never start.' Yes, it sure is.
Hope we all learn something and get wise in our business.
“Loving What Is” by Byron Katie
Thanks Brian:
When I finished my second listening of the Bryon Katie Note, I found that the “Compassionate Alarm Clocks” still rang bells with me.
Sometimes that “Clock” is the jolt I get when I find I am spending too much time on something incidental, something that can’t be changed, or something that really isn’t my business anyway.
The morning alarm gets me going but I need to be awakened for the next moments of the day.
Love this episode, because I absolutely love that book! You hit all the high points!
Thanks for referencing my favorite Byron Katie quote: "When I fight reality, I lose, but only 100% of the time." Love it!
I was in a relationship with a man that I adored but always wanted to change me or solve my problems. We just fought and there was no solutions to our problems. I could not grow as a person and felt he was an anchor. So I started to focus on my business and cleaned my lenses. I left our relationship and started to live the life that was meant for me.
"When I fight reality, I lose, but only 100% of the time."
"Reality" shows are all the rage. Maybe because it allows us to take a break from our reality. Or helps to make "our reality" easier to endure.
Rather than be an observer, altough we may learn from others mistakes, we need to be participant, be proactive, and shape our own reality in the reality that we most want and need. There are so many great options in this world; as Brian Tracy alludes to/this is the greatest time in the history of the world with so many opportunities in front of us. And he talks about how it starts with "the first step"/one step at a time.
As Byron Katie says: "Do the dishes". Thanks for that. Like cleaning our files/or the basement/formidable tasks/but just take it a day at a time/don't try to take on a whole weeks/months/years worth of work in one gulp.
I - AM - diggin it. Thanks.
What we resist persist and amplify !!!
What resisting means ? It means denying, ignoring, pushing back, fighting what is
Why is it that what we resist persist? Because :
1/ If you keep fighting something, it will always be in the forefront of your mind and you will constantly be thinking about ways to beat it. Therefore it will never go away and will always be a part of your life. Resistance imply producing energy; this creative energy reinforces the very thing we are trying to avoid, giving it strength to continue in your life.
2/ Resisting what is is violating the law of cause and effect (which is a universal law) by trying to act on the effect instead of acting upon the cause. I have control on the cause and no control on the consequences once the cause is initiated. It's like trying to clean up a steam of water while it is corrupted from the source. No matter how hard you try, you "lose 100% of the time". Another great metaphor is the mirror. Suppose you are facing a mirror and you don't like some aspect of what you are seeing in the mirror, say your hair cut. No matter how hard you try to make change on the mirror, the image won't change. What you have to do is to act upon the source of the image which is you. One way to do this is to go to the barber.
3/ We can never leave a place we have never been in. To leave somewhere, we should first be there . Unless we accept and embrace fully what is, we can't do anything about it.
For me, Loving what is is changing the way I interpret it. Instead of seeing my negative emotion, my setback or my compulsive dependency, etc.... as a bad thing to avoid, I embrace it fully and welcome it in the real sense. It is the instrument of my survival mecanism in action, sending to me a message. It is an anvitation to grow and explore a new dimension I have never been before. It is a signpost to the limit of my confort zone or some weakness to strengten. My Job is to look for the message and work on the specified area in order to explore the forest hidden behind the tree.
What a synchronistic event !!!!!!!!
I was thinking about all the above when I got your message and listen to the TV note.
awesome, hassane!!
Dear Brian,
The movie theater and lens did inspire me.
Sometimes I keep complaining on something or someone, but I forgot that they didn't do anything wrong, it's me, myself should change.
Now, I learned about the lens things, and I am going to remind myself first in the future.
Thank you very much for sharing so many wise thoughts to us. Thank you!!!
Living my own business! This is one big idea! That one alone would change the way I go through life. There never is a point to whining about anything I can't control myself. God's business, anyone else's business, none of those are in my hands, and they shouldn't be:) I can choose how to react to them, that's MY business:)
Thanks Brian, another great start to my day!